Unforgiveness is one of the most destructive behaviors possible. Impacting our prayers, relationships, even the thoughts we have. You can allow an unforgiving spirit to utterly ruin your life. Scripture is clear that we are to willingly and openly forgive anyone who causes us harm. The reason is that we ourselves have been forgiven. The grace that God pours out on each of us should be our motivation and example. If we have received His forgiveness, then we simply must do the same for others, even when it seems difficult or unfair.

What is forgiveness? simply put, it is the act of giving up resentment toward someone, along with the desire to retaliate. In other words, we surrender three things, (1) The general feeling of resentment, (2) the specific feelings towards a particular individual, and (3) all claims to retribution. Forgiveness is far more than a simply "I forgive you" statement. It involves a total change of action and attitude. One must say, "though you wronged me, I love and forgive you. I wish you the best and will help you however I can." Can you make this statement after being hurt? Pray for those who have wronged you, and release your resentment. May God bless you.